Shame, blame, guilt, embarassement, feeling unworthy/ less than/ not good enough break us up into pieces and create the vicious cycles of reinforcing those same feelings. Whaterver piece of us we feel is not good enough, we separate ourselves from in shame. We dissociate from those pieces in an attempt to be our best selves, to be loved, to be successful but the truth is those pieces of ourselves we wish weren’t there are just as lovable and successful as the rest of us. We may even hate them or find them annoying in others. Judging others is always a reflection of judging ourselves.